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110 How to enjoy Ernstraudian
wealth
The thought of heaven haunts us
because the capability of it lies within us.
The above Sunday School
quote was on my mind when I referred to “the perfect moment to
institute that more divine order” (article 109). In my vocabulary that is not a
reference to the supernatural. Instead, it identifies the
character and aspiration of the new world we are building
together.
Viewpoint
Today we reflect on the
meaning we attach to historical events. After I posted my
article, the internet served me two compatible but contrasting
views of the riot:
Arnold Schwarzenegger’s outspoken patriotism and Michael Moore’s
studied analysis, concentrating on defense of democracy and
prosecution of criminals. The world is ready for my other
perspective, neither bipartisan nor depressed. I use the effusive
happiness mentioned in the prior article to support constructive
action.
I acknowledge the seriousness of violent
insurrection, but at the same time I turn all difficulties into
anticipation of the better future. What we learn about
ourselves gives us the strength to establish peace
thoughtfully. Especially, in the last article I showed that I
am not in pain. Freed from anger, my mind is clear to
continue the path of peace.
Tools
Based on earlier articles,
article 109 proceeded without
name-calling and recriminations. Here we are accustomed to
looking inward for peaceful resolutions. By living our lives on a
plane above anger, we calmly proceed to healing. It is a good
time to review the Ernstraudian Way (article 38):
- Begin where you are.
- Face the light.
- Proceed at your own pace.
- Bring someone with you.
By concentrating on the love we extend to
others, we move always toward the better world regardless of
interruptions or setbacks. We get there by joining together.
Theory
Worthwhile police work is
not my area of expertise. In
article 32 I refused
to watch news reports of burning buildings because the watching
serves no useful purpose. I waste no time pretending to be
superior to government. Instead, I make constructive
contributions to its excellence. I improve it by supporting
progress (agreeable changes), not by complaining.
Pacifism is anything but
passive. A pacifist never waits for the greedy to attack and then
lies down motionless. Usefully waging the peace is to anticipate
needs and address them. Distressed, greedy people are better
approached with assistance than with confrontation. Desperados,
in their greed, are not beyond learning that if they preserve my
life, they will get more than my meager material goods. What I
help them become is greater reward than the spoils of war. If I
am a contributor to their happiness, they are not motivated to
destroy me.
Specifics
Instead of condemning the
poor or the rich, I teach both to be happier by sharing. That is
a long, gradual process carried out by good example and positive
expectations (article
107). You see, I apply to others the
love that was applied to me throughout my whole life. Likewise,
when you apply love, you will reap peace in a better
society.
This is the fact of life
that makes every little person significant. I make no attempt to
accumulate wealth for philanthropy. My deliberate choice, based
on my gifts, is to conflate my (Ernstraudian) wealth with
happiness. I do not wear a badge, but I can be a poll watcher. I
am not a preacher, but I can say something nice to the crotchety
man who lives on the corner. I am not the biggest customer of the
grocery store, but I can be polite in the aisles and say
something encouraging to the harried cashier. I can drive
courteously on the highway. I can walk the walk by serving in
public office.
In the aggregate, this
exactly describes good government. Being American is not being in
the same social club with everybody else. It is not “winning”
elections. Instead, our diverse society thrives on the
magnanimity of character mentioned in
article 109. That is
the universal bond, and I do not know anybody who is against
love. It is what qualifies us for the social order. It is
active pacifist defense. What we do not do with love, we
do not do.
Rewards
How does being nice
guarantee this happiness? All the water in the world cannot sink
the tiniest boat if it does not get inside. We stay afloat
personally by never letting the anger in. Being free of
that pain is our happiness. Best of all, it is under our
control. Greed, being out of control, is never fulfilled because
self-aggrandizement is never enough. Eliminating anger, we retain
control over the happiness which cannot be taken away from
us.
Indeed, happiness is
positive perception of the world you are in. Africa provides
praiseworthy examples. David Zarembka held healing circles,
reconciliation meetings, that brought together survivors of
bloody riots between Hutus and Tutsis. He led people from both
sides in trust building exercises through which they built new
bonds of fellowship. He asked them to forgive and befriend those
who had murdered their neighbors and spouses. I have attended his
in-person account of these successful sessions. I have also
conversed with a young gentleman from Ghana who affirmed to me
that his country is a kinder, gentler, less aggressive place than
here where I live. In the job market I have encountered trainers
who have had to teach gentle people from Africa and other places
how to promote themselves in America where you have to toot your
own horn. I witness that human social order can be carried on
where people put other ahead of self. My life’s witnessing
aims to bring this blessing to my country’s people.
Sadness
Consider a sobering
danger of the parent-child relationship. Please adapt it as
appropriate where it applies, whether to family, association, or
government. Freedom does not thrive under overbearing control,
whether that is shared love (article
59), government (104),
or charities (105).
Specifically, I have seen all too many cases of well-meaning
parents who meddle with their children’s development. Almost
invariably such parents operate on a deeply ingrained sense of
duty to assure the child’s best interest. Sadly, they fail to
respect the child’s independence on issues like career, marriage,
politics, religion, gender, or personal identity.
Vision—family illustration
Unhappiness is
self-imposed. Selfish parents suffer over the decisions of
children who do not become exact copies of the parents. In their
own insecurity, they don’t acknowledge that the children will
survive on a road different from the one the parents are
travelling. They grieve unnecessarily over children who have
found themselves in a different world. The children mature and
succeed while the parents bring mental suffering on themselves
when they cannot expand to new reality in which the children
thrive.
Alternatively, to address
the tensions, mutual respect assures loving accommodation of
differences. On both sides, love is the key to the well-adjusted
individuality we call happiness. This option is always available;
those who reject it cause their own suffering.
Practice—government application
The family setting might
be easier to understand than a government setting. However, in
the public arena the principle still applies that one party may
not impose its norms on another, especially regarding personal
values like identity, occupation, gender, marriage, reproductive
rights, and many other. Protecting these basic individual
freedoms is a duty for which government exists, and the “parent”
organization must assure my safety.
Along with the above
duties of society to me, I have duties of tolerance to my
society. I personally choose not to live in a country that
commits torture, practices capital punishment, or possesses
nuclear weapons. However, that is not for me alone to determine,
and until my persuasion prevails, it is my duty to live
peacefully in a country that does not live up to my standards. It
is not my place to overthrow the government of the country when
it offends me; I must control myself to assure the safety
of the society around me.
Conclusion
Today we have studied
theory and practice at the personal and the collective levels.
The specific stories serve as illustrations of fundamental
principles. The overarching purpose of the article is peaceful,
nonconfrontational resolution and reconciliation among disparate
entities. The most important issue is that we get along
peacefully with each other.
Anger and happiness are
alternative responses to all manner of events, conditions, and
circumstances. Our responses come from our character; they are
not imposed on us. Whether you enjoy the Ernstraudian wealth that
we call happiness is entirely under your control. For me,
choosing tolerance makes effusive happiness.
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